Being a widower and dating
We’ve been slow to write about this subject in the past because, well, it’s COMPLICATED. That said, we receive lots of questions in our email asking questions related to new relationships after experiencing loss and, over time, we hope to have articles addressing all these concerns.Today we’re going to start with a post for a special subset of widows and widowers.Photos do not indicate a person is stuck or that they aren’t ready to date.The wonderful and amazing thing about human beings is that we don’t have a finite capacity for love.Ask yourself: Why am I uncomfortable with the photos?If you are feeling threatened or insecure, you may need to redefine how you understand grief and the relationship deceased loved ones play in the lives of those who mourn them.I am dating a widow(er) and they are still close to their deceased partner’s family. First, let’s be clear, it’s very hard to say what is and isn’t normal in grief.Let’s just say, though, it certainly isn’t abnormal!
Before we jump into the FAQs, it’s a good idea for who cares about a grieving person to have a baseline understanding of grief. Actually, we do have a post answering this question, but the conversation bears repeating because this is our most commonly asked question.
So, you may want to start by checking out these posts about grief and then reading this post on how to support someone grieving.1. Read the whole post if you want a more in-depth answer, but here is the quick and dirty – it is 100% okay to display photos of a late-partner in the home.
I am dating a widow who still displays photos of their late partner in their home. This is true if the deceased person is the parent of children who live in or visit the home.
Think about it – people aren’t erased from their families or their family history simply because they have died.
Would you think it odd for someone to have a photo of a deceased grandparent, sibling, or child in the home?